Journey To A Fresh Start

<Sigh>: If anyone had told me in when I filed for divorce in 2015 that nine years later I would still be in divorce court, I would have said they were speaking out of sorts. Alas! 9 years later here I am scheduled for another October court date - another birthday thinking about/preparing for court.  How do I feel? Depressed that's for sure - I have always hated that word but I feel like I can't run from it anymore.  I thought, at least my dad would get an opportunity to see me settled and happy before he dies. "Okanlanwan, are you happy?" He seemed to be the only one in my household really concerned about my true well being. The only one who looked beyond the smile I put on my face to hide how I really felt inside - WEARY. I thought I would be 100% free of my ex by now.  Instead we are still in court. His latest fight - medical support arrearage. When is enough, enough - 401k settlement vs. child support arrearage vs. medical support owned vs. geographical restr

We had mediation today. Guess who our mediator was - Cindy Aguirre - the sitting judge on our divorce case. Looks like we finally have an agreement to finalize the divorce settlement! It's taking my mind some time to accept that this has finally happened after almost 10 years! He gets no gains - something he had been fighting for for years. He withdraws the $55195 from my 401k and gives me net proceeds. fort bend and contiguous counties lifted. His child support arrearage to date 0 out. Drop off location updated to fire station on Commonwealth blvd sugarland! Child support reduced from $2008 to $1500 from Feb 2024 forward.  Lord Lord Lord - thank you thank you thank you!!! This has been 20% of my life... its a wonder I am sane! Please let this end in praise!!!

It has been a while I documented my thoughts, my experiences. Today I heard news that made me realize God really does not forget his own. My son told me today that he had not been to his father's house in 4 months even though he has been picking them up during his possession periods. Where have you been staying I asked confused at the news. At Auntys house (his sister) or at Grandpa's house because they are in Nigeria. What is going on I asked. Well daddy said he doesn't want to take us to the house because one of Aunty Ronkes (his new wife) friends called daddy to tell him that Aunty Ronke has been poisoning daddy for months. A doctor confirmed there were traces of the substance in daddy's blood. What tha! I always felt like my life has been a soap opera since I met this man but being poisoned by his new wife...now that's next level! According to my son, his dad had been sleeping in the guest room with the door locked because he doesn't know what aunty might do