How do you tell your mom, who you've looked up to and admired all your life that she set you up for abuse with her constant "corrections" aka criticisms? How do you tell your dad, who was mostly distant, with a high expectation to be revered by his children that he had a part to play in this faulty foundation? In 2017 I sat in one of my victims of domestic violence therapy sessions and was shocked when my therapist said these words, "typically people who end up married to narcissists experienced childhood abuse." I immediately became defensive of my childhood, defending how I preferred the Nigerian way of raising children because the proof is in the pudding i.e. more American children are generally lazy, very disrespectful, many do drugs and crime ending up dead or in jail. By my extrapolation, this quonondrum was due to the lax parenting style enabled by the American system and culture. Fast forward 2019, my parents, now aged, visit America for medical t
